I ♥ Hugs

A hug is the shortest distance between friends. —Author Unknown

I will not play tug o’ war. I’d rather play hug o’ war. Where everyone hugs instead of tugs, Where everyone giggles and rolls on the rug, Where everyone kisses, and everyone grins, and everyone cuddles, and everyone wins. —Shel Silverstein

I love hugging. I wish I was an octopus, so I could hug ten people at a time. —Drew Barrymore

I’m a hugger. I LOVE hugs. Pretty much, if you don’t smell bad and you aren’t all sweaty and dirty (or, depending on who you are, even if you are sweaty and dirty…), I want a hug from you.

For some reason, though, I don’t come across as a hugger. People seem hesitant to offer me a hug. I used to be bad at hugging (or so one of my closest friends told me, though not as nicely as that), but I’ve made a real effort to be better at it, because I like really like hugs. I like hugging, I like being hugged.

I’ve gotten better about just asking for hugs. Luckily, 99% of my friends are also huggers.

I’ve wondered why I like hugs so much. I mean, there are people out there who just aren’t huggers. There are people who don’t like physical contact. I’m not one of those people.

The quotes above really say something about how I feel about hugs. Especially the Shel Silverstein one. (Side note: the Drew Barrymore quote doesn’t quite make sense, as with two arms for each hug, she’d only be able to hug 4 people at a time, and even if she only did the one-arm-hug, which I hate unless it’s for purely practical reasons like your other arm or hand is full of things, it’s still only 8 people, but I digress.) Maybe it’s because I’m now living alone for the first time in my entire life, but I crave human contact at times. Hugs, kisses, hand-holding, etc. are all great things, and I feel like they’re things we can never get enough of. But while kisses and hand-holding are often reserved for more romantic relationships (though not always), hugs are universal.

Hugs can be fine with people you just met or people you’ve known your whole life. They work whether you love someone or like someone or just think someone might be worth getting to know. Hell, you can even hug your enemies and it can be nice.

I guess what I’m trying to get at is that I like hugs. I have some friends who are really good huggers, too (a couple of people instantly come to mind). While virtually all hugs are nice, some people just seem to have a natural affinity for the act. Those are the people I always try to get hugs from, whenever I see them. (These people probably don’t know I’m talking about them, if they were even to read this, but I’d gladly tell them they were the best huggers I know if they asked.)

Okay, and here’s something that’s probably going to get me some hate email/comments, but here goes. In my personal experience, men are better huggers. I’ve got some female friends who give good hugs, but guys tend to squeeze you a little tighter, and I guess a lot of the time it just feels more genuine. It’s not an attraction thing, as it’s true of friends and family, too. I’m sure there are women out there who give hugs that are just as good as the best male huggers, I’m just not sure I’ve met any of them. And who knows, maybe good female-to-female hugs are impossible due to the whole boob thing (those suckers get in the way of a lot of things).

Hugs from people you’re close to are even better than just random hugs, though. Getting a hug from a close friend can just instantly brighten your day. As it should. I mean, that’s kind of the point of a hug, right? To make you feel good.

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One thought on “I ♥ Hugs

  1. Found your site via an article you wrote on wireframing on Smashing a couple of years back. Some great references there. You done anything else more recently on wireframing?


    {hugs} 😉

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